Am I the only military spouse who actually gets antsy to move after about 2 1/2 years? Even before we came back to active duty, we moved a lot due to family growth and job changes. The longest I’ve lived in one dwelling since I left home is a little over 4 years. Now we’re coming up on the end of our first AGR assignment. My husband’s orders only go through this school year. I’m starting to get antsy. This will be my first time PCSing through the Army, and not because we choose to do so. Seasoned PCS spouses out there, how long before the actual move does the Army usually cut orders and let you know where you’re going? We’ve got one special needs kid (maybe 2 if we ever get in for an evaluation). I’ve got to find a PCM and specialists, coordinate therapies and school with an IEP. Being AGR (Guard), we stay in our state, but this is really the only MTF we’ve got. I”m pretty sure to receive autism services my boys have to be enrolled in Tricare Prime. I need to not only know where we’re headed next, but if we’ll be Tricare Prime Remote, and how that works with the therapies, etc.
Logisitically, this is going to be a nightmare without several months notice. It’s often very hard to get in with new doctors, especially the specialists. Hell, we’re STILL waiting for the Intermediate Unit to evaluate our 3 year old to see if he needs early intervention services (I’m thinking he does since he’s severely OCD). His initial referral was April. His speech evaluation that he failed was the end of June. I’m supposed to get a call this month, but it’s the 20th, and I’ve called and was told December, and they’d call me back this month with a date. I have yet to get a date. My biggest concern is that I’ll have to start this whole process over if we move, and we’ve already had to wait 6 months with at least another 2 months to go.
And housing. This is the only place I’m told in our state with officer housing. There’s only one other Army place we’re aware of in the state that has any military housing – period. If we leave this area, we’re definitely going to be on the economy. Do they not know what the housing market is like? Do they not know how hard it is to find places to rent? This is certainly not the time to be buying a house and trying to flip it in 3 years.
Is it just me? Is it because I’m married to a logistician that I think like this? Honestly, I don’t care about pack dates. Shove our stuff in boxes and let’s go. That’s the least of my worries. It’s the doctors, specialists, finding a school district that can meet our son’s needs, and a place to put our stuff on the other end that’s concerning me.How do you other milspouses cope with this? My husband is even antsier than I am.