Yes, this is yet another post on bullying. My nine year old son has experienced it. So much so in grades K-2 until we moved that he would get stomach aches, he acted out, and he began to hate school. All was ok after we moved until some kids moved in across the street that were bullies, then of course it’s fine again now that they’re gone.
What happened during these times of bullying? NOTHING. At our former school district, I would call the school, and teachers and the principal would tell me it’s “just kids being kids.” My personal favorite was when my son had taken all he was going to take and retaliated, and then he was the one who was punished. Then the other kids would keep pushing his buttons on purpose to keep getting my kid in trouble. There was even an incident with the alternative ed. high school students being outside when the 1st graders were having recess, taking the 1st graders ball, and yet, my son was still one who got in trouble for trying to get his ball back. WHAT? My blood still boils when I think about all the times he was rebuffed and told not to tattle by teachers and admin. At the same time I was being rebuffed as a parent. I am not a parent who takes being ignored with a legitimate complaint lightly.
It’s the mentality of the last school district where we lived. No, it’s the mentality of most schools I’ve dealt with. You hear as a parent, “we have a zero tolerance policy on bullying.” When it’s actually happening, no one wants to get involved. And I love how in a recent article about our past school district where a 14 year old boy killed himself because of bullying, admin are once again saying there’s a tendency to blame the school in these situations, but no one reports noticing any issues. OF COURSE NOT. No one is going to admit they weren’t doing their job. That they weren’t trying to protect a kid. I’m telling you, in that particular district, it’s a culture. This is where I say thank you to the Army and PCSing and getting us the hell out of there, or this could have VERY easily been my oldest child who is different because he has Asperger’s.
It’s time we as a whole society take a stand. It’s time we all do what’s right. It all starts with just one person. Are you that one person? Do you demand more from your school? Do you think there is more they can do in six hours a day? Speak up and be heard.